tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930052491138639118.post5073986046151695376..comments2023-08-27T05:32:10.276-07:00Comments on Shama-lama Mama: When Your Glass is Less Than Half Full or More Than Half EmptyShama-Lama Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07135491072067344065noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930052491138639118.post-65769554025032953242008-10-06T20:57:00.000-07:002008-10-06T20:57:00.000-07:00I wish I could help you. I don't have to deal wit...I wish I could help you. I don't have to deal with bad attitude, but I do have to deal with extreme separation anxiety. sometimes the need to blame ourselves is way too easy, ya know? I think some kids are just the way they are. later in life you will probably be proud of him for standing up for himself. right now though, I can understand how tiring it can be to deal with.Rachel Schellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08993337201786554035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930052491138639118.post-25694710269978717972008-09-11T10:04:00.000-07:002008-09-11T10:04:00.000-07:00wow. lots to deal with! I must say, however, know...wow. lots to deal with! I must say, however, knowing you (and I will project onto Michael) you are the perfect parents for Noah.... meaning that you are equipped with the wisdom (to even question these things) and the means to seek out help, and the love and support to offer Noah. We all have things we have to learn to manage and those like Noah are fortunate enough to have the parents that JeSaishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11091087499393107791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930052491138639118.post-79292440308751480642008-09-08T19:59:00.000-07:002008-09-08T19:59:00.000-07:00You have already had wonderful advice. I only wan...You have already had wonderful advice. I only want to say how much I admire the way you work and play with your children. You seem to be a perfect mother in every way.<BR/><BR/>I know since the twins came along, you have to be on overload. Things always seem worse when we are tired, which you have to be. <BR/><BR/>I can remember when raising three daughters; I prayed with each one of them, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930052491138639118.post-21747624605926326882008-09-08T09:01:00.000-07:002008-09-08T09:01:00.000-07:00You've received some good advice here, so I'll let...You've received some good advice here, so I'll let it go at that. But I wanted to comment on your comment of being jealous of "parents with pleasant, eager to please children". Girl, those parents (and children) do not exist! While every situation and child is unique, do not think for one second that there is a perfect parent or perfect child. I think every parent feels the same way as you at Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07189102657804450496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930052491138639118.post-17462367460384157302008-09-08T07:23:00.000-07:002008-09-08T07:23:00.000-07:00Hi,Remember me from Akron? I do read your blog of...Hi,<BR/>Remember me from Akron? I do read your blog often, and being the mom of 7-year-old Victoria, I can relate to a lot of what you're going through. Although we're not dealing with ADD, she does have a lot of anxieties and "issues" where she can be quite nasty at times. A lot of what you've described of Noah is familiar to me...6-7 year olds can be a real handful at times! But we have ourAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05266953674589061484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930052491138639118.post-50923767201252468192008-09-07T20:16:00.000-07:002008-09-07T20:16:00.000-07:00In my (humble) opinion a good Therapist is very he...In my (humble) opinion a good Therapist is very helpful.<BR/>Just be who you are and the children will learn from example.Pick your battles.Not everything is important;adults are not perfect,children are not perfect.<BR/>Noah is struggling with something and going to a"talking Doctor" will help.<BR/>Let me know if you want to discuss it more.Do you need a wekend brake?<BR/>VeraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930052491138639118.post-89325175782103203322008-09-07T11:15:00.000-07:002008-09-07T11:15:00.000-07:00i have no parenting advice - as i know next to not...i have no parenting advice - as i know next to nothing on the subject. :) <BR/><BR/>but your title really resonated with me, and i completely understand that feeling. it'll get better.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17136475934858797611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930052491138639118.post-84713363736036652702008-09-07T09:08:00.000-07:002008-09-07T09:08:00.000-07:00Some good advice so far. Sift through it and figu...Some good advice so far. Sift through it and figure out what will likely work for you. <BR/><BR/>Here's some more to sift through, because I've lived it, and it's what worked for me.<BR/><BR/>1. Come to an understanding with your hubby - that if he is available - and you are on overload - that he will deal with Noah. (It's likely that he does this already...just saying that it should be MariByhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08638653789518583048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930052491138639118.post-79203450237425275412008-09-07T09:07:00.000-07:002008-09-07T09:07:00.000-07:00Thanks to everyone who is taking the time to comme...Thanks to everyone who is taking the time to comment and give ideas and advice. I assure you I am not a basketcase and just felt completely wiped out last night. 3 cups of coffee this morning and I am back on track and ready to start again!<BR/><BR/>Mare, WELCOME and yes, I have heard of that book before and it keeps popping up. Maybe I should take a look at it! I took a one-evening seminar for "Shama-Lama Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07135491072067344065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930052491138639118.post-18007478157721028582008-09-07T08:46:00.000-07:002008-09-07T08:46:00.000-07:00Thanks to Mari (and your Mom, too!), I recently st...Thanks to Mari (and your Mom, too!), I recently started popping over to visit your blog. Although I haven't had time to comment on your beautiful photos, this post made me want to come out of hiding.<BR/><BR/>Because I am a new reader, I don't really know much of the story about Noah. His changing moods may be much deeper than this, but have you had the chance to read (and please excuse me for Marehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01086949963405081491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930052491138639118.post-88229596398130456552008-09-07T06:36:00.000-07:002008-09-07T06:36:00.000-07:00Boy, honey, I don't even know what to say. I thin...Boy, honey, I don't even know what to say. I think Mariby and Gail both gave you excellent advice. I'm with Gail, though, about finding a therapist who you trust. If nothing more than for your own peace of mind. I've seen Noah go from happy boy to raging boy and I know that it isn't easy to deal with. I don't think you should delay a whole lot longer though about finding help because it may Snowbirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06893874233609147714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930052491138639118.post-85025034207575057362008-09-07T06:02:00.000-07:002008-09-07T06:02:00.000-07:00I wrote a long reply and depressed myself. But I...I wrote a long reply and depressed myself. But I erased it because I also concluded that I am not smart or objective enough to give a useful response. Besides, you are smarter than I was and will not have the same cards that I was dealt. And my mistakes could be your successes. So here's the revised edition:<BR/><BR/>You can't always know what is a phase and what is just part of the Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1930052491138639118.post-32074242036457253192008-09-06T23:56:00.000-07:002008-09-06T23:56:00.000-07:00I feel for you...I know exactly what you are going...I feel for you...I know <I>exactly</I> what you are going through. When you describe your Noah, it is the same as it was with my son. Because my son and your son wear the same label. <BR/><BR/>I will not mince words...it will not get easier for some time...<BR/><BR/>Do take some time for yourself every day...it will help tremendously. And know this...from everything that I know about you, you MariByhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08638653789518583048noreply@blogger.com