For those of you in need of a catch-up, Noah’s kindergarten teacher thinks he should be tested for ADHD. We took the Connors Test for ADHD (One of many tests available, in which the parents answer questions and the teacher answers a different set of questions and it is scored). The teacher gave him a very high score and we here at home gave him a low one.
I got to spend a good 20 minutes talking with a therapist from the school system. The topic was supposed to be what to expect from therapy and how to find a therapist that is right for your child. We did talk about that, but also about his symptoms. We talked about his issues at school and when I said, “he just doesn’t exhibit that behavior at home”, she sighed and said that THAT phrase is one of the things you hear over and over again from the parents of a child that is later diagnosed as ADHD.
In the second session, which was actually about ADHD with a specialist, I brought up the idea that it could instead be early signs of bi-polar disorder as that would explain the mood swings and occasional depression we see at home as well as the bursts of creativity at home and the hyperactivity at school. They asked if I had B-P disorder in my family.
Apparently both disorders are highly genetic.
I had a long talk with my brother yesterday who described to me what ADD feels like (he does not have the H=hyperactive) and also explained that his son, who was diagnosed around Noah’s age, was experiencing low self-esteem and depression symptoms, too. In fact, they concerned the psychiatrist more than the ADD did.
But still I persist in my doubts about Noah having ADHD. He does exhibit a few of the behaviors. But there is a good deal of symptoms he doesn’t exhibit. And a lot of the ones he does show COULD be chalked up to “being a boy” and lack of maturity. He is one of the youngest in his class.
* The teacher believes he probably has it.
* The doctor who never met him but heard all about him agrees it’s likely he has it.
* “He doesn’t exhibit these symptoms at home” is a common thing said by parents of ADHD kids.
* My nephew had personality changes and low self esteem before diagnosis (which resolved after he finally went on medication after trying other methods for awhile).
We got a referral for a great child psychiatrist who (thank heavens) is in our insurance network. He has been given accolades by his peers for being one of the best in his field in the county, and has been described as a very conservative doctor, who does not pass out ADHD diagnoses as if they were candy, like some doctors do.
Until then, three more weeks of school until the end of Kindergarten.